ADHD & Autism Coaching for Adults, Couples, and Parents
Coaching for ADHD, Autistic, and AuDHD brains, from a coach who has both.
I'm Shane Thrapp. I coach adults with ADHD, Autism, or both who have spent years running their lives on systems built for somebody else's brain. I also work with couples, parents, and the organizations around them.
Certified ADHD Coach · Operations Director, Men's ADHD Support Group · Board of Directors, Dueling Minds · Marketing Lead, International Conference on ADHD
Coaching for neurodivergent adults
You know you're capable. You also know Tuesday fell apart again and you can't explain why.
Maybe you hold it together at work and lose it in your own kitchen, or the reverse. Maybe you spend all day masking and have nothing left by the time you get home. Every planner and app you've tried worked for about two weeks.
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We figure out how your brain handles time, tasks, energy, and sensory load, then build systems around that one at a time, starting where your week keeps breaking. By the end, you can adjust them yourself when life changes.
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Sessions are 60 minutes by video. The first call is free, so let's see how I can help you create order from your chaos.
How I work
Most advice for ADHD and Autistic adults hands you a tactic: use a planner, set a timer, break it into smaller steps, stick to a routine. Then the tactic breaks, as tactics do, and you're left holding one more piece of evidence that you can't do what everyone around you seems to manage without thinking.
I start somewhere else. Before I hand you anything, we map the whole situation: the executive function piece, the sensory piece, twenty years of shame piled on top, and the people and schedules you work around. Once you can see the full system, you can bend any tool to fit it, repair it when it breaks, and build the next one without me.
Why work with me
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 35 and Autism at 36, after decades of believing I was lazy and getting away with something. Most of what I teach, I built for myself first, and I still run it every day while raising four kids in a blended family, several of them neurodivergent.
Before I became a coach, I spent 14 years managing projects for companies like Cisco, Wells Fargo, and Duke Energy, often in leadership roles. That's where the structure comes from. I look at how things are going now, plan around what can't change, build something, and fix it when it breaks. It's the same process we'll use together.
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These days I'm also Operations Director for the Men's ADHD Support Group (27,000 members), I run the ADHD Parent Support Group (46,000 parents), I sit on the board of Dueling Minds, a nonprofit for the AuDHD community, I lead marketing for the International Conference on ADHD, and I co-host The DadDHD Podcast. Across those groups, I've watched thousands of people get stuck in the same places, so I usually know where things are going to break before they do.
Other ways I help
For couples. One of you forgets, the other keeps score, and you're both tired of the same fight. Or one of you needs quiet to come down and the other needs to talk it out right now. We work on the system the two of you share, so neither of you has to play the problem.
For parents. Most kids aren't trying to be defiant. Most kids are trying their best, and whether it's ADHD, Autism, or both, the usual parenting advice assumes a brain your kid doesn't have. Trying to make it work has been costing both of you. If you want to talk with other parents who've been where you are, the ADHD Parent Support Group is free, and 46,000 parents are already in it.
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For organizations. I run keynotes, workshops, and staff training on ADHD, Autism, and neurodiversity for schools, healthcare teams, and employers watching capable people struggle under standard systems. I also help small businesses with hands-on project and operations work.
Not ready for coaching yet?
If you're not ready to pay anyone, The DadDHD Podcast and the blog will give you plenty to work with. Men with ADHD, Autism, or both can join the Men's ADHD Support Group and its weekly calls, and parents can join the ADHD Parent Support Group, where you'll find other parents working through the same things you are.
​Need a diagnosis or therapy first?
​Coaching works alongside a diagnosis and therapy, but it can't stand in for either one. If you want an answer about ADHD or Autism first, or you need a therapist too, I partner with ScienceWorks Behavioral Healthcare. They offer adult ADHD and Autism assessments and telehealth therapy in 40 states. Their website has current pricing and the full list of services.
ScienceWorks Behavioral Health uses telehealth for convenience and accessibility. Services available in the following states:
AL, AZ, AR, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MS, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY
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