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You've been running your life on a system built for somebody else's brain.
I'm Shane Thrapp. I work with neurodivergent adults, couples, and parents to build systems that fit your brains.
Coaching for neurodivergent adults
You know you're capable. You also know Tuesday fell apart again and you can't explain why.
Maybe you hold it together at work and lose it in your own kitchen, or the reverse. Maybe you spend all day masking and have nothing left by the time you get home. Every planner and app you've tried worked for about two weeks.
Sessions are 60 minutes by video. The first call is free, so let's see how I can help you create order from your chaos.
How I work
Most advice for neurodivergent adults hands you a generic tactic: use a planner, set a timer, break it into smaller steps, stick to a routine. Then the tactic breaks, as tactics do, and you're left holding one more piece of evidence that you can't do what everyone around you seems to manage without thinking.
I start somewhere else. Before I hand you anything, we map the whole situation: the executive function piece, the sensory piece, twenty years of shame piled on top, and the people and schedules you work around. Once you can see the full system, you can bend any tool to fit it, repair it when it breaks, learn from the failure, and build the next one without me better.
I've been where you are
I was diagnosed in my mid-30's, after decades of believing I was lazy and getting away with something. Most of what I teach, I built for myself first, and I still run it every day while raising four kids in a blended family, several of them neurodivergent.
Before I became a coach, I spent 14 years managing projects for companies like Cisco, Wells Fargo, and Duke Energy, often in leadership roles. That's where the structure in my coaching comes from.
Between the support groups I run and the podcast, I've watched thousands of people get stuck in the same places, so I usually know where things are going to break before they do.
Other ways I help
For couples
One of you forgets, the other keeps score, and you're both tired of the same fight. Or one of you needs quiet to come down and the other needs to talk it out right now. We work on the system the two of you share, so neither of you has to play the problem.
For parents
Most kids aren't trying to be defiant. Most kids are trying their best, and if your kid is neurodivergent, the usual parenting advice assumes a brain your kid doesn't have. Trying to make it work has been costing both of you. If you want to talk with other parents who've been where you are, the ADHD Parent Support Group is free, and 48,000 parents are already in it.
For organizations
I run keynotes, workshops, and staff training on neurodiversity for schools, healthcare teams, and employers watching capable people struggle under standard systems. I also help small businesses with hands-on Business Consultant and Project Management work.
Credentials
- Certified ADHD Coach, with Distinction (IPHM)
- ADHD-CCSP (PESI)
- Certified Professional Coach (Life Coach Training Institute)
- Certified Life Coach (Life Coach Training Institute)
Come hang out
You're not the only guy dealing with this! 27,000 neurodivergent men are in the Men's ADHD Support Group, it's free, and there's a call every week. Come hang out with us.
Other parents have been exactly where you are, and 48,000 of them are in the ADHD Parent Support Group to help! It's free, we keep the advice safe, and there's a live support call every month. Ask anything.
What clients say
Shane is a total gem. He is a kind soul, beautiful human being and a very knowledgable professional. From our first session (free assessment) Shane took the time to open-heartedly listen (without judgment) and managed to intuitively connect the dots and bring stuff out into the light that was completely hidden.
Free tools you can use today!
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The Employee You're About to Lose
A free guide for managers and HR teams. Why a good employee starts missing updates and deadlines, and what to change before they burn out or quit. Get it when you join the email list.
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Pills Don't Teach Skills
A free worksheet for parents starting ADHD medication. What changes to expect and when, and what to track for the doctor. Get it when you join the email list.
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Values & Strengths Resource
A free resource for neurodivergent adults. Work out what you value and what you're good at, in your own words. Get it when you join the email list.
Not ready for coaching yet? That's okay.
I get it, sometimes we aren't ready for coaching, there's nothing wrong with that. This was one of the most daunting things for me when I was where you are. Please check out these other resources I've developed if you need a more self-paced system.
- The DadDHD Podcast, where Braden Young and I talk about raising neurodivergent kids and keeping relationships strong, and sometimes we sort through the research for you.
- Neurodivergent men can join the Men's ADHD Support Group and its weekly calls.
- The Resource Library, a collection of what I think are some of the best reads and listens about neurodivergence today.
- And of course, check out my blogs that cover everything above!
Need a diagnosis or therapy first?
Coaching works alongside a diagnosis and therapy, but it can't stand in for either one. If you want an answer about ADHD or Autism first, or you need a therapist too, I work with therapists and assessment providers all over the country and can point you to one. One of them is ScienceWorks Behavioral Healthcare, which offers adult assessments and telehealth therapy in 40 states. Their website has current pricing and the full list of services.
ScienceWorks Behavioral Health uses telehealth for convenience and accessibility. Services available in the following states:
AL, AZ, AR, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MS, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY
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The DadDHD Podcast
Braden Young and I are two neurodivergent dads, both certified ADHD coaches, raising neurodivergent kids while still figuring out our own brains. Every episode takes one piece of that, from the mental load to why rest isn't lazy, and turns the research into something you can actually use.
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