ADHD & Autism Coaching for Adults, Couples, and Parents
I'm Shane Thrapp. Most of the people I work with have spent years running their lives on systems built for somebody else's brain.
I help you build systems that fit yours.
Certified ADHD Coach · Operations Director, Men's ADHD Support Group · Board of Directors, Dueling Minds · Marketing Lead, International Conference on ADHD
Coaching for neurodivergent adults
You know you're capable. You also know Tuesday fell apart again and you can't explain why.
Maybe you hold it together at work and lose it in your own kitchen, or the reverse. Maybe you spend all day masking and have nothing left by the time you get home. Every planner and app you've tried worked for about two weeks.
Sessions are 60 minutes by video. The first call is free, so let's see how I can help you create order from your chaos.
How I work
Most advice for ADHD and Autistic adults hands you a tactic: use a planner, set a timer, break it into smaller steps, stick to a routine. Then the tactic breaks, as tactics do, and you're left holding one more piece of evidence that you can't do what everyone around you seems to manage without thinking.
I start somewhere else. Before I hand you anything, we map the whole situation: the executive function piece, the sensory piece, twenty years of shame piled on top, and the people and schedules you work around. Once you can see the full system, you can bend any tool to fit it, repair it when it breaks, and build the next one without me.
Why work with me
I was diagnosed in my mid-30's, after decades of believing I was lazy and getting away with something. Most of what I teach, I built for myself first, and I still run it every day while raising four kids in a blended family, several of them neurodivergent.
Before I became a coach, I spent 14 years managing projects for companies like Cisco, Wells Fargo, and Duke Energy, often in leadership roles. That's where the structure in my coaching comes from.
Between the support groups I run and the podcast, I've watched thousands of people get stuck in the same places, so I usually know where things are going to break before they do.
Other ways I help
For couples. One of you forgets, the other keeps score, and you're both tired of the same fight. Or one of you needs quiet to come down and the other needs to talk it out right now. We work on the system the two of you share, so neither of you has to play the problem.
For parents. Most kids aren't trying to be defiant. Most kids are trying their best, and if your kid is neurodivergent, the usual parenting advice assumes a brain your kid doesn't have. Trying to make it work has been costing both of you. If you want to talk with other parents who've been where you are, the ADHD Parent Support Group is free, and 46,000 parents are already in it.
For organizations. I run keynotes, workshops, and staff training on neurodiversity for schools, healthcare teams, and employers watching capable people struggle under standard systems. I also help small businesses with hands-on project and operations work.
Not ready for coaching yet?
Also, I get it, sometimes we aren't ready for coaching, that's why I provide resources like The DadDHD Podcast and these blogs all about neurodivergence. Neurodivergent men can join the Men's ADHD Support Group and its weekly calls.
Need a diagnosis or therapy first?
Coaching works alongside a diagnosis and therapy, but it can't stand in for either one. If you want an answer about ADHD or Autism first, or you need a therapist too, I work with therapists and assessment providers all over the country and can point you to one. One of them is ScienceWorks Behavioral Healthcare, which offers adult assessments and telehealth therapy in 40 states. Their website has current pricing and the full list of services.
ScienceWorks Behavioral Health uses telehealth for convenience and accessibility. Services available in the following states:
AL, AZ, AR, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MS, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY
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