Parent Coaching for ADHD, Autistic, and AuDHD Kids
Your kid has been standing in the doorway of his room for twenty minutes, and you've asked four times. Every part of you says this is defiance. It isn't. He wants to do it and he knows he should, but the bridge between knowing and doing is out, and consequences won't rebuild it. Systems will.
Sometimes it looks different. Your Autistic daughter held it together all day at school and fell apart the second she got in the car, and that isn't manipulation either. She spent everything she had getting through the day.
I have ADHD and Autism, and I'm raising neurodivergent kids of my own, so I've stood on both sides of that doorway.
What does Neurodivergent parent coaching cover?
Parent coaching helps parents of neurodivergent kids use approaches that fit how their child's brain works, at home and at school.
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What we work on
• Your kid's brain doesn't link consequences to behavior the way you were taught to expect, so we build discipline that works with the brain they actually have.
• We size routines and home systems to your child's real executive function, not to what a typical 9-year-old is supposed to manage.
• We sort out meltdowns from tantrums, because each one needs a different response. An Autistic kid melting down from sensory overload needs the room to get quieter, not a consequence.
• We work on your own capacity, because your regulation predicts how this goes more than any technique aimed at your kid. If you're neurodivergent too, we build around your wiring as well.
• We figure out what to ask the school for and how to ask for it, from IEP and 504 meetings to the daily emails with teachers.
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Two ways to get help
The ADHD Parent Support Group (free)
It's a Facebook group of over 45,000 parents who are on the same journey as you. We moderate hard against misinformation and dangerous advice, and we host a live support call every month. You can ask anything there.
One-on-one parent coaching
We work on your family and your kid, on your schedule, and build the systems at home and the plan for school together. Coaching starts at $150 per session.
Free ADHD medication worksheet
Medication can open the door, but your kid still has to learn the skills. This free worksheet walks you through starting ADHD medication for your child: which changes to expect and when, which side effects level out and which are red flags, why sensory issues can show up, and what to track for the doctor.
Book a free call and tell me about the hardest part of your week.
Start here
Parents find me through these four posts more than anything else I've written. If you're new, start with whichever one describes your week.
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Why Traditional Consequences Fail Neurodivergent Kids
Why Spanking Hurts Neurodivergent Kids More Than You Think
The Hidden Dangers of Over-Protecting Your Neurodivergent Child
Age-Appropriate Independence Building for Neurodivergent Children
The goal is not perfection; the goal is persistence.
Moving forward, upward, outward.
Constantly working to make incremental change
that is sustainable and long-lasting.
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We must work to understand that we are unique.
Part of our healing process must include
learning to accept us for who we are.
Not striving for a non-existent ideal of "normal."
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SHANE THRAPP
Contact me
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