ADHD & Autism Couples Coaching
For couples where ADHD, Autism, or both are in the room.
One of you forgot again. The other one noticed and said something, and it turned into the fight you've had forty times about whether you even care. Or one of you needs an hour of quiet after work, and the other takes it as being shut out. You're two brains running two different operating systems, and nobody handed either of you the manual for the other one.
How do ADHD and Autism affect relationships?
ADHD tends to show up in relationships as forgetfulness, time blindness, and an uneven household load. Autism tends to show up as differences in communication, sensory needs, and how much change each partner can absorb. Either way, one partner often ends up managing and the other ends up feeling managed. Couples coaching works on the shared systems behind those patterns.
Who couples coaching is for
• Couples where one partner has ADHD, Autism, or both
• Couples where both partners are neurodivergent, which happens more than most people expect and brings its own collisions
• Partners stuck in a parent/child pattern, where one manages, the other gets managed, and both resent it
• Couples who still like each other and are worn out by the same arguments
Is couples coaching the right fit?
If there's abuse or coercion in the relationship, coaching is the wrong tool. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
If you're working through an affair or deciding whether to stay together, start with a licensed couples therapist. I'm happy to work alongside one.
If one of you is coming to get the other one fixed, we'll talk about that on the free call, because this only works if both of you are in it.
How couples coaching works
We start with a free call, and I want both of you on it. I'll ask each of you to describe what's going wrong, and most of the time you'll describe two different problems. That gap is usually the first useful thing we find.
In the first few sessions, we look at how each of your brains handles time, memory, tasks, sensory load, and conflict, whether that's ADHD, Autism, or both. Most couples find out they've spent years reading each other's symptoms as intentions.
From there, we build shared systems for the parts of life that keep blowing up: the household load, money, and how you talk to each other when one of you is overwhelmed or shutting down. Both of you have to be able to run them, including whoever is less organized.
Some sessions work better with just one of you, and we plan for that too.
Investment
Couples coaching starts at $200 per session, with package options for ongoing work. We'll figure out which one fits on your free call.
Book the free call together, and plan on both of you talking.
CONTACT ME
Have a question before you book? Send me a note and I'll get back to you.
