You and your partner agree about your kid. You disagree about everything to do with handling your kid. One of you thinks it's discipline, the other thinks it's wiring, and every school email turns into a second fight. Kids pick up on that fast. A neurodivergent kid does better when the two adults behind them are working from the same picture, and getting there is a skill you can learn. It isn't a sign you're failing. Below are a book, a podcast, and a channel for both of you. The first call is free, and you can both be on it.
What looks like disrespect is often dysregulation or a behavioral disorder. See how ADHD, Autism, PDA, and ODD shape behavior and which parenting styles help.
Free resource
The workbook I start coaching with. You figure out what actually matters to you and what you're actually good at, so you can build your life around both instead of around who you think you should be. For adults with ADHD, autism, or AuDHD, diagnosed or wondering.
Book
Tamara Rosier, PhD
Clear on why an ADHD brain runs on interest instead of importance, and the family book covers the whole house, not just the kid.
Tamara Rosier writes for the whole household where ADHD lives in one person or several: how emotions escalate, how conflict runs, and how repair happens after. It's practical, with the family system in view instead of one person's symptoms. It comes from a Christian imprint (Revell). For parents and couples who are tired of the same fight and want to understand what's actually driving it.
Podcast
Shane Thrapp; Braden Young
Braden Young and I are both certified ADHD coaches, and both dads with ADHD. We sit down and talk about fatherhood with this brain. The mental load. The marriage. The kids. What changes when a diagnosis lands in the middle of all of it. If you're the dad in your house who keeps dropping the ball, you're not the only one. There are two of us on the recording doing it too.
YouTube channel
Melissa Orlov
Melissa Orlov wrote The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and this is her channel. She talks about the parent-child pattern that sets in when one partner ends up managing the other, and what a couple can do about it. She also runs a couples seminar and support groups, so the videos point somewhere. If you've had the same fight for years, start here.
